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Sunrise or Hope

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He smiled as she said her name again, she was such a beauty and her innocence was what made him so drawn to her. Yet he felt he was doing something wrong. Segun lost his wife 2 years ago and he wasn’t sure he should have a love interest so soon.

She smiled as he looked at her with his dreamy eyes, she wondered what he was thinking about. She was happy because she had met someone who didn’t want anything else but just know her and of course,” stare”… hahaha… she laughed. It had been 3 years she hadn’t dated , not because of betrayal or anything of that sort. She was saving herself for the best, “The One” as she heard her married friends say.. Suddenly she looked at Segun, he was handsome but of age.  She guessed he was in his late 40’s and wondered what was his story. She could tell sadness behind those eyes but she hoped she would help ,ease the pain and make him feel alive again… She wanted to save him because she needed saving too… However she was a little hesitant;would he accept her and her story if he knew?

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Bold, Beautiful and Bossy

Miriam , that is what everyone called her. She was the 3 B’s… Bold ,Beautiful and Bossy. Yes and she didn’t mind flaunting it. She attributed her assertiveness to leadership. She once told us that it came from her many years of directing, coaching and bringing up her siblings. We would laugh.

We were such good friends until, Bayo came between us. I often joked that he would. I kind of saw it coming but didn’t want to believe our childhood friendship would be crushed because of love. Yes, because of stupid love. I was bitter, still bitter, as I wrote.

Bayo was one of those charming guys, who knew exactly what to say to get exactly what he wanted.  Miriam at that time was already engaged to Mike, our childhood friend and part of our inner circle. Mike was her first and was going to be her last! We just couldn’t forgive her for the betrayal. How could she do that? Bayo wasn’t special!

Hmm… Why do I remember? Miriam is in a coma and that should be my focus but perhaps I was worried she wouldn’t wake up and I couldn’t say all the things I had kept buried in my heart for 3 years.

Oh my time flies! It was 5 days  since the incident and Bayo was still AWOL. I kept asking myself,how could beat her and set the house on fire? I couldn’t wrap my head around it but I couldn’t help but say, ” I told her”.girl in pain

Twinkle Twinkle

426685_424082927627752_700825732_nAmara seemed to forget constantly that she was beautiful.  She knew she was but pain had made her self-doubt and she began to lose herself. It had been 5 years, 3 days, and 21 minutes since he walked out the door and yet, she couldn’t move on. She was not only mad at herself but wondered how stupid she could be. She used to laugh out loud when she watched those Spanish movies and the two lovers would cry and part and wish they could die together.. little did she know she too would fall so madly in love and get heartbroken as well.

TJ sat there lamenting about how he hurt Amara but didn’t have the guts to see her again. He walked out on her in the most unkind way. He knew what he did was wrong but pride won’t let him talk to her. There were days he would pick up the phone and try to call but he would give up. Their love was real.. it was intense.. she was going to be the mother of his kids, they were going to live on a farm when he retired… they were going to be happy. Then what went wrong? He just couldn’t remember , all he knew was she got him so mad and he walked away and said he would never go back and didn’t . However, thoughts of her had crossed his mind recently. He had dated several women but none like Amara.. No one got him so focused.. No one could challenge him, no one loved like that and no one believed in his dreams like she did… no one was as generous… no one.. gosh , he knew he messed up but one thing he also remembered was her temper and stubbornness… that he couldn’t stand and then he laughed… He wondered how she was doing… Was she married now?

Amara told her herself, Tunde was good enough. He had been patient with her .. especially with her rules… No sex before marriage and they had been steady 6 months, but gosh …her heart did not beat when she was near him. She cried to God.. Was she just going to marry for marriage sake or remain an old maid when the one she loves didn’t want her? All she needed was a twinkle…

Wild and Free……..

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Tope had just gotten off an annoying phone call with her ex. She wondered why he just didn’t get it that it was over… they were no longer dating and  he was now only a friend. Why did he still act like he owned her? Gosh… She pondered how she began loving a man who only considered himself as supreme and every other person meant nothing. Why did she find him so attractive and yet he only made her angry.. This fatal attraction was killing her. She had to stop seeing him. Looking through her contacts ,she remembered Dapo.. A fine eloquent gentleman ,who almost swept her off her feet at some point…But then she was so blinded by her love for Tope, she couldn’t ” see” him.

Dapo was one of those guys that every girl would dream of…Tall,  dark, handsome and rich but she still feared the worse. She was never really successful with men but she told herself, she was turning 40.. She had to try, she wasn’t going to look great forever..

She prayed for a man, who would sweep her off her feet. She prayed that she wouldn’t meet a typical “African man”, she prayed she would complete him…And just as she was lost in her thoughts and her prayers…The phone rang and yep, it was Dapo…Hmmm… she sighed.. Could this be it? The truly, madly, deeply love, she so dreamed about and wanted so badly…

Love versus Reality

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Hmm, Regina sighed heavily. She was sad but happy. Happy because she was alive and as her dad always said , ” once there is life, there is hope “.. She said to herself ,she was not going to be depressed, she sure wasn’t ! but it had been several months since the love of her life died. She still remembered as if it was yesterday. He had just kissed her goodbye, as he left for work and she was in such a foul mood that day. It hurt so bad. Life is so unpredictable ; not knowing if that would be the last time, the last kiss  or  the last look. She cried a little and then dried her eyes. It was his dad that called to tell her he got a call from the hospital. Till today ,she wondered why her number was not his emergency contact. Anyways, she had to move on. Thinking or remembering him was not helping,although she knew she would remember him forever.

She thought about her first love, Vincent. He often joked they would end up together. She got mad at him when they were younger : Their constant fighting got to her. He was so immature and he wouldn’t accept it. She was often childish too but expected him not to be ,as he was her man… and that’ s how they would fight nonstop. It was so annoying but she had missed him greatly.

Looking at his Facebook page ,she noticed he was seeing someone. She wondered if she should ask him if they were serious but she also wondered if he would want her back.  Those thoughts were killing her but she prayed and decided to give him a call.. As the phone rang, her heart skipped..

Vincent was chilling at home  with his friends talking about women and men and their differences. He wondered if he should propose to Sally. She stood by him over the years and tolerated him in spite of his silliness. Something he remembered Regina wouldn’t tolerate. He imagined if Regina was there ,she probably would have asked him to tell the boys to go home ,so they could cuddle.. lol. He laughed. She was really weird sometimes but that’s what he loved about her. Just at that moment , he looked at his phone, he could not believe it.. Regina was calling. His heart stopped, he was torn between taking the call or letting it go to voice-mail… He hushed the guys and said,” you won`t believe it but Regina is calling! what do I do?”

Love versus reality.. He could marry Sally and wonder  forever what kind of marriage he could have had with Regina  or end it with Sally and marry Regina, the love of his life and be willing to stand her, no matter what…

A Child

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A child

Young or adult

A child is a child

Not knowing where to go, not knowing what to do

A child needs attention, affection and warmth

A child is a child

Soothing words make him or her smile

Being held in his mother’s or father’s arms is what he longs for

In need of discipline from his parents or parent once in a while

In need of empathy and compassion

In need of direction and guidance all the time

A child is a child

In need of his independence from his parents

In need of his freedom from a certain age

In need of his opinions ,his voice to be heard

That is why sometimes a child bursts into tears or anger tantrums

A child is a child

A child sometimes is difficult to understand

A combination of two persons

A product of genes

A child is unique

A child is a gift

A child picks cues from anything and everyone one around when growing up

That is why the early stage of a child’s life are crucial

Habits becomes behaviours and sometimes are negative but focus on the positives

A child is a child

Stubborn as a mule or gentle as a dove

The right company he needs to keep,at an early age

Training a child in the way it ought to grow

That is the way to go

Give him some responsibility ,so he learns accountability early

A child is a child

A child needs trust, comfort and security

He wants to know his family will always be there,come rain ,come shine

A child needs to be constantly reminded of love

Because once his or her feelings are hurt, will withdraw to a world of his own

A child is a child

A good child will never forget a parent that was there for him

In in their old age, he will shower them with care and love

And obey for them for the rest of his life

A child should not be neglected

A child should be respected too

A child is a child

A child is an amazing gift to the world, once you have one or several, love them equally, love like you never have and give all you have to make their dreams come true…

Suddenly

It was spring again and Cassandra just loved the weather, It was her favorite time of the year. It often ushered in new beginnings, change ,hope and faith. She was so in love with John and would just day-dream about him constantly. She felt so lucky in love. She had been in love before but this was different, she felt safe. However their issue was, both families did not think they were a good match.

She met John at work; he was consulting at the firm she worked at and after several ” hellos” and bumping into each other, she decided to ask him out. He was impressed. He was the one always doing the chasing and was glad, this pretty girl had the guts to go for what she wants and that is how it all began. They were complete opposites but you know the saying how opposites attract… that was it.

Now his parents had so much money and hers didn’t. That was a major issue. John’s folks were convinced that she was after their money and asked her to sign a prenup while he insisted that he would not put her through such pain. He proposed, it was his decision and she did not even want to accept. She told him they needed to wait,they barely knew each other after 2 months but after a week, she called him and said ”yes” that they would grow together; Even after 20 years, they would still be learning things about each other.

Meanwhile his folks had a perfect girl for him.  She was a daughter of a business partner and although he did indicate interest at some point, he just loved the simplicity of Cassandra. She loved him for who is and not what he was and that is all he wanted.

Cassandra was at home with her parents trying to convince them that John loved her for real and was not going to make her a piece of furniture. He knew she had dreams and they had agreed that she would set up her own clothing line. She was going to put in 5 years into that before having kids. Everything had been thought about and agreed. Her mum told her men change, it was all too good to be true. Why would he pick a simple girl like her over thousand of rich women with affluent family over her?

Could their parents be foreseeing the future? True love after all does not care about material things…